Not Your Average Family.

But you probably figured that out from the picture.

We forget, quite often, that we are a different family, and we suspect that our friends and relatives have a lot of questions about us that they are just too polite to ask. So this blog is for them, but it is also intentionally public.

It’s our hope that, by getting to know us, we can change some preconceived notions of what it means to be a family and what it means to understand and truly love someone, no matter the differences. 

We want to let people know that our differences do not matter — everyone has the capacity to love someone who differs from them, if you just get a chance to know them. Truly, we are more alike that we are different.

We want to show you that, and we want to share our journey and some of the moments that have made us who we are. We hope to inspire you in your journey, especially if it is one that involves adoption.

Almost despairing

For a couple years, our Saturday mornings were all about hip hop dance. Ron and I would take turns (depending on whatever else was going on) taking the kids to classes at Supreme Dance Studio, where I looked forward to seeing my kids enjoy a serious workout while gaining some great skills and a bitContinue reading “Almost despairing”


Written by Danelle Henden. When I was 9 or 10 years old, I wanted twins and I had the names picked out – the first name and the middle name but no last name as of yet. It is funny how life plays out. When I found out I was pregnant, I thought it wasContinue reading “Choices”

Choosing to be chosen

Nothing kills a conversation quite like the topic of infertility, at least in my experience. Well-meaning but nosy older relative: “So why are you putting off having kids?” Me: “Actually, I had surgery for an ovarian cyst a couple months ago and…” Result: silence. I learned pretty quickly to substitute this response: “Well, Ron andContinue reading “Choosing to be chosen”

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